Tuesday, November 4, 2008

A bit of this a bit of that....

So, as usual, nothing new on the baby making front.  I am pretty much NOT doing anything until January or February.  I will start thinking seriously about the frozen embryo transfer (FET) after the holidays.

But I have had some interesting things happen.  The first is CRAZY!  So, during my marriage, I was really good friends with my ex's sister and SIL.  We went out at least once a month, emailed, talked on the phone, etc.  They were truly 2 of my closest friends.  Well, after my ex decided he wanted a divorce, I relied pretty heavily on them.  They were totally like "he is a stupid asshole" and very supportive of me.  I mean, they loved him but they HAD to since he was family.  But after about 6 or 7 months, the ex told the girls they had to choose - him or me.

 I totally understood the difficult position he had put them in.  Here he was, living with the floozy, trying to pretend he didn't do anything wrong and that he started "dating" her after our separation.  Whatever.  But the fact that I was still friends with the girls and hanging out with them was just too much to take.  Now, I think I can honestly say I would never do that to my brothers (but they didn't like him so I knew that was never a possibility :))  Anyway, he gave them an ultimatum and they caved.  While I understand their point, I was still pissed that they gave in and allowed him to dictate their actions.  Whatever.    

Well, this weekend I ran into his sister at the mall!  It was crazy.  I haven't seen the ex for about 2 years and haven't seen the girls for about a year (we cheated and accidentally "ran into" each other at a bar a few times).  So I catch up with the sister about her life and the SIL's life.  It was great to see her.  After about 10 minutes, I finally break down and ask about the ex.  Evidently, he is no longer with the floozy.  She didn't know who ended it or any details.  I couldn't decide how I felt. On one hand, at least if he was still with the girl he left me for, it would seem worth it.  On the other hand, I hoped that he dumped her so she knew what I felt like.  But I don't really care (is that the right word??) whether he is happy or not.  While I don't actively wish him ill, I wouldn't be unhappy if something bad happened to him.  My mom still wishes that he somehow would have died in an accident before the separation. :)  That way I would have had the house and some $$.  But she is a very protective mama.  You don't want to wound one of her kids - she will run over you without blinking.  She actually wanted to put some shrimp in a vent at this house when I moved out....she was mad and didn't understand why I wouldn't let her! :)

Anyway, I just thought it was interesting.  It is sad, in a way, that he doesn't have a better relationship with his sister and SIL. But that is his choice.  And he needs to live with those.

My youngun.  He is just such a republican...to an extreme.  He is going to a republican candidate's results party tonight.  At the candidate's MIL's house. :)  I had no desire to be a part of that.  But he did ask me to go to the Nebraska football game with him this weekend and spend the night in Lincoln.  The odd thing is this:  Lincoln is about 30 minutes away and the game is at 1:30.  Hmmmm.  I told him I was up for whatever and he should plan it.  I am interested in seeing what exactly happens with that.  I don't have any way of defining what we have.  I am just enjoying it.

What else?  Not much.  It has been a busy two weeks - a fun two weeks.  I have been fairly upbeat - but I also haven't been thinking about the baby quest too much.